WELLBEING
Wellbeing Hub
After seeing first hand the emotional impact separation and divorce has on individuals and families, we became passionate about finding new ways to help clients to navigate through the process.
To enable The Family Mediation Clinic to meet the needs of clients in a holistic way we have developed a wellbeing hub to provide our clients with support and a space for reflection whenever they need it.
Counselling & Coaching
Separation and divorce are life-shattering events with so many painful emotions. Dealing with the grief and loss of a relationship, the anger, hurt, fear, etc. can make it difficult to make good decisions and for parents it can feel like it is impossible to co-parent.
Our team of experienced family consultants, co-parenting experts and counsellors will guide you and your family through the changes that you may face with psychological expertise, integrity and understanding.
Often in times of high stress and trauma, we don’t feel like ourselves, and it can be difficult to think straight when we are overwhelmed by emotion.
This is a natural response to abnormal events and where we are operating in a fight or flight mode. Whilst it may be a normal human response it can feel exhausting and unproductive.
Emotions such as rage, shame, humiliation, failure, rejection, and loss, are common with couples who are separating. All too often events in the present can touch on something very raw from our past and can raise sensitive issues from childhood.
Counselling can help you to come to terms with the difficulties that you may be facing now or have experienced in the past. Our experienced therapists can support you as you navigate through your emotional journey, enabling you to make good long-term decisions. When you start feeling better, you start thinking differently.
By offering support to parents going through a divorce and helping them with their emotional journey, we firmly believe that we can help to relieve children of the difficulties that they may face when their parents separate.
However, there are times when children and young people may need support of their own.
All of the Counsellors and Psychotherapists at the Family Mediation Clinic are qualified and experienced in working with children and young people and are registered with the BACP.
They all hold an up to date and enhanced DBS and are trained in safeguarding children.
We can provide counselling to children from aged 5-18 and this can be on-line or in person. For younger children we can offer creative therapy, using art or play.
If you feel that counselling will benefit your child/children this can be arranged at an additional charge.
Please contact us for more details.
Our individual online counselling services are offered by Angela Keenan, Adrian Murray, Lynsey Judge-Porter and Jennifer Chapman each of whom has a background in both adult and children’s counselling and psychotherapy. Adrian is also able to offer in person sessions to clients in the Warwickshire area.
All counsellors at the Family Mediation Clinic are highly experienced and are qualified and registered with the BACP.
Pre-Mediation coaching
Whatever the reason you may be choosing mediation or being required to go to mediation, do you know what to expect? Most people have never been to mediation before. Even if you know a little bit about the process, it can be scary and intimidating.
What would it be like to walk into your mediation and know what to expect, feel confident and in control of your emotions, and have a plan and list of proposals?
The Family Mediation Clinic conducts many mediations, and sees many successes, but there are some failures. Through our own research we have found that pre mediation coaching has a dramatic impact on the success rate of mediation, particularly in higher conflict relationships or when communication has completely broken down.
As a licensed provider for Bill Eddy’s New Ways for Families Pre-Mediation Coaching®️, the Family Mediation Clinic works with both parties to give them a better outcome in their mediation and relieve so much of the anxiety, and emotional overwhelm people feel in mediation.
It is offered to both parties individually and can be completed in one or two sessions.
Because we are so confident in it’s success we include pre-mediation coaching in all of our mediation packages.
Co-parenting Coaching
Putting children first when parents separate
- You may feel guilty that you have created a situation which is upsetting for your children
- You may worry about how your children will cope with the changes that your separation will bring
- You may feel overwhelmed and so emotionally exhausted that you don’t have energy for the children and don’t know what to do to change things
- You may feel that the conflict and lack of consistency between you and your ex is damaging and confusing for the children
- You may worry you’re failing as a parent
- Your children’s behaviour may have suddenly changed towards you and you are scared that your relationship with them will never be the same
So, what's the answer?
Well you could stay as you are, having good days and bad days, struggling along through the stress of bringing up the children, trying to do the best you can in a bad situation.
Or is it time to find another way to work together in partnership with your ex-partner and ensure your children not just survive but thrive in this new situation?
Imagine how different things will be if...
1. You help your children make sense of what is happening in their world and in the process they develop emotional resilience and learn that they can cope with challenges.
2. You provide the security and certainty they need to adapt to the changes ahead and flourish in the future.
3. Your stress levels reduce and you can focus on your needs as well as the children’s.
4. Conflict with your ex is removed so that you can effectively co-parent.
5. Both parents and extended families remain a positive factor in the children’s lives.
INTRODUCING
New Ways for Families Co-Parenting Coaching®
The Family Mediation Clinic is one of the first providers in the UK who offers this modern, highly effective coaching approach. For married or never-married parents. It is designed to help manage any separation or divorce case, but specifically to manage cases where there are concerns around, high conflict personalities, implacable hostility and/or parental alienation.
The New Ways for Families® method is a short-term structured coaching programme designed to reduce the impact of conflict on the children in potentially high-conflict separation and divorce cases. Working with each parent separately, we teach parents the skills they need to put their children first and to protect them as the family reorganises itself in new ways around positive behaviours after a separation or divorce.
Each coaching session allows parents to learn and practise one of four key conflict resolution skills, and teaches them to use these skills before big decisions are made. The four skills are:
- Flexible thinking
- Managed emotions
- Moderate behaviours
- Checking yourself
With these new skill sets and the help of trained professionals, parents are encouraged to work together outside of court to arrive at their own parenting agreements. All the while maintaining their focus on positive future behaviours rather than on past negative behaviours. When parents are able to make positive and healthy parenting decisions for their children, it eliminates the possibility that a judge will make those decisions for them.
Our Anchor packages are designed for clients in complex or high conflict situations and include new ways for families co-parenting coaching and counselling.
Our New Ways For Families® Co-Parenting programme is included in our Anchor package or can be added to any of our other packages or as a stand alone option.
Counselling
Often in times of high stress and trauma, we don’t feel like ourselves, and it can be difficult to think straight when we are overwhelmed by emotion.
This is a natural response to abnormal events and where we are operating in a fight or flight mode. Whilst it may be a normal human response it can feel exhausting and unproductive.
Emotions such as rage, shame, humiliation, failure, rejection, and loss, are common with couples who are separating. All too often events in the present can touch on something very raw from our past and can raise sensitive issues from childhood.
Counselling can help you to come to terms with the difficulties that you may be facing now or have experienced in the past. Our experienced therapists can support you as you navigate through your emotional journey, enabling you to make good long-term decisions.
When you start feeling better, you start thinking differently.
